Something's Coming- Deperate Housewives episode.?

Who all has died?
In the beginning of the episode, they said one friend and one husband.
My body count so far is Victor and Sylvia for certain.

However, Ida, and the Scavos (not counting Lynette) are in the basement of a crushed house (Mrs. McCluskey's).

Carlos was hit in the occipital lobe with a rock, a blow which if hard enough, could potentially kill him-- we don't know if he's just unconcious though.

So now I ask you- who is the husband, who is the friend? Is Victor the husband? But he and Gabby are somewhat divorced, so does he count? Maybe it's Tom, but we don't know if he is really dead. It is Carlos? (does he count as a husband figure? Though he probably isn't dead, so this point may be moot.)

And the friend- Is it Ida, buried in Mrs. McCluskey's basement? Is it Toby, hiding beneath the car outside? (though does a cat really count? well, Ida said it was like her child?) Is it Sylvia, who may be a friend of Adam's. Or is it Carlos (altho again, its very unlikely he's dead)

But see, if it's Ida, isn't Tom dead too? and he's definietly a husband.

i think that sylvia (the lover) is dead (like Tom's former lover, the one who he has a daughter with, was shot last season). but i don't think she counts as a friend. victor and gabby are married - there were never any papers filed - so he is the husband. i believe that ida might be the friend, but i'm starting to get worried that it might indeed be carlos. it's very tricky, and the only one i can say for sure fits the introduction of "a husband and a friend" is victor, as the husband.
EDIT: ida could be dead without tom and the kids dying. remember, she was asleep, and tom and the kids could have sought more shelter within the basement. or she could have gone upstairs looking for the cat. there are many ways for one to be dead without the others.
EDIT: ok, last time i'll change my answer...i think we can rule out tom being the husband mentioned in the opening, for no other reason than this: there's no way victor can survive his injuries. that was a huge piece of picket fence that went through him - and he is definitely gabby's husband. i just really don't think it's tom.

Victor & Gabby are still married so he is the husband as you saw the gate through him the actor who plays Victor has said that his days were numbered this season
& the friend will probably be Ida
but then again the writers could throw a curb ball & surprise us
can;t wait to find out what happens

Victor, Gabby's husband and Ida, the cat lady neighbor.聽 I don't think Sylvia (the one who "flew" away) really counts since she was just a fleeting introduction of a character.聽 She my not be dead either.聽 I think she was a mistake from the writer's so she may just be forgotten kind of like Tom's former lover who had the daughter we hardly ever see and who is now nice. We may not know until January anyway. I think there is only one episode left due to the writer's strike and I heard they won't be showing it until after the holidays. Stupid writers!