Perplexing Scorpio Male?

I am interested in this scorpio guy, who I have known for a year. He offered to meet me for coffee to discuss something further, and was incredibly sweet about it, but stood me up. Then waited three weeks to get in touch with me, and agreed to dinner, but stood me up again. If this were any other sign (or guy), I'd never speak to him again, but this guy seems very complex, and I am obviously perplexed. Everything I have read about scorpio men make this seem like the norm. Does anyone have any insight or explanation?

To be honest with you, based on my 20 yr experience with a Scorpio male in my past (and others I have observed) there are some real bad apples who take the energy to a bad place. When a man of this sign is not choosing to display his more positive traits (and thank you to those who do, I am not saying you are not out there) it can be ugly.
Heaven help women that are unfortunate enough to cross his path if he is a negative male Scorpio. It is these men whose behaviors drag the reputation down, unfair yes, but stereotypes don't come out of thin air.
Negative traits are not giving a rat's patooty about the feelings of a woman, pretending to be more interested than he really is, playing head games, having mega control issues, total manipulator.
By allowing this person's energy back into your life after he stepped on you once, you sent the wrong message lady. So he did it again. Why would you care enough even to ask about him, do you want his energy in your life *again* after he dissed you twice?
Look, Scorpio men are charming and magnetic, ladies men. Women are stumbling all over themselves to get near one. The wrong types take that for granted and become users of women. If *you* stood him up, he would probably be *all over* you. It would be an ego thing to get you back to him. As soon as he felt like you really wanted him, he would back off again or take advantage.

Yea... he doesn't give a sh*t about you... move on. Stop making excuses for the man....Man first, then Scorpio.

I don't think this has anything to do with his sign! This guy is a loser and I think it's time you ignore his calls from now on. He will never have respect for you. If he treats you like this now, it will only get worse once he "gets" you. Dump him. Dump dump dump!! It isn't a sign thing.

All of my closest friends are Scorpios. They are usually very complex thinkers who overanalyze. They are very blunt and very unforgiving.

But they are not normally the kind of person to stand someone up with no explanation.

Sounds like the guy is just a jerk.

Move on.

He is not a good person. Just ignore this idiot - he has nothing going for him.
Hopefully this doesn't turn you off all Scorpios.


Sorry you had to meet such a chump.

I'm not sure, he's probably just being an #ss, but most likely it dosen't have to do with him being a scorpio, most i know are very punctual, it drives them nuts if they aren't on time, and they would never stand you up like that for no reason at all, he's probably seeing what you'll do, or dating another person trying to have his cake and eat it too. Don't waste your time on this guy, it's not even worth it. If he calls you don't even pick up the phone, or do the same thing he did to you. I bet you'll see him trying to hook up with you again, but if i were you i wouldn't.

The Scorpion is one intense little creature, with enough poison in its own tail to disable or kill a much larger opponent. But the problem with this kind of built-in biological weaponry is that it must be mastered in order to be used most effectively. You Scorpios can use your "stinger" for self-defense, using your powerful emotional awareness to render your opponent harmless. But there is a sexual component of poisonous tail also, and until Scorpio learns to control those strong urges, Scorpio may find yourself in uncomfortable situations.

Scorpio is the only sign that has three animal totems. First, there is the well-known Scorpion with its active tail. Second, as the Scorpio learns to master its passion and hold its instincts at bay, it changes into the Eagle. The Eagle has more perspective, for it flies high above the surface of circumstances, swooping down with its power only to kill prey for food. In its third form, the Scorpion becomes the always-peaceful dove. The real meaning of Scorpio is thus shown. Scorpio is about metamorphosis. Scorpios transform the painful poisons of possessive passion into a higher consciousness based on universal love.

The Scorpio motto might be "What is hidden is more interesting than what is obvious." You are the detectives of the zodiac. Your magnetic personality draws others to you. But you can also be secretive yourself, for you learn early on that when you express everything, others may be scared by the power of your feelings. You desperately want to have someone to merge with your feelings, but can become cold and withdrawn when hurt in love. You have the magic to light up the dark, but sometimes you would benefit by looking at the positive side of things rather than going into the darkness at all.

Element: Water
Astrologically, the water element symbolizes emotion. Water runs deep; it seeks its own level and will flow until it has found it. The cycle of water is endless with the snows falling in the mountains and melting. The mountain streams join to make the great rivers that run to the sea. The tides and currents churn the oceans. Similarly, our feelings are flowing as they connect the present with past experiences. Sometimes the waters are so deep that we cannot put words to our feelings.

The water of Scorpio is fixed and frozen, but it is a mistake to think that ice doesn't flow. It does flow -- and with great power. Think of a glacier, moving so very slowly, yet with enough power to flatten a forest or even a mountain.

Eighth House: Transformation
Since the Second House is the House of Possessions, the Eighth House opposite it, is about what other people have. This can include sexual issues, for they usually involve another person. It is also about the ultimate transformation -- death -- but not necessarily your own. It could be said that the Eighth House is what we don't know and what we cannot understand. It is surely a House of Hidden Power.

Key Planet: Pluto
Pluto is the Lord of the Underworld. If this sounds scary, it demands a bit more explanation, for Pluto symbolizes everything that is beneath our consciousness. This isn't about the Hell where we are punished. Rather, it is the Hell that William Blake describes as a place "so beautiful that it would torment an angel to insanity." As the key planet for Scorpio, Pluto is intense and powerful, representing those things that we don't or can't understand. And it is from these hidden Plutonic spaces that magical transformations arise.

Scorpio Greatest Strength: Your passion about your feelings

Scorpio Possible Weakness: Need for secrecy can be isolating