Remeber 70's and 80's rocker chick Pat Benatar? Was she gay?

Nope, Pat Benatar is straight. Joan Jett (I Love Rock and Roll, you know the song) is the gay one.

Nope...she's been happily married to her guitarist Neil Geraldo for quite a few years and they do have children

Nope...

she married her guitarist who goes by the name "spider"...

She has never been a lesbian....

I had all of her albums on 8-track... and a huge crush on the little lady with the incredible voice....

Who cares ??

She was a good singer and that is all that matters..

yes

No, but speaking of 80's female singers with a soft spot for the same sex, Joan Jett was dating/sleeping with Carmen Electra for a while. Not the same, I know, but I thought it was pretty hot.

Apparently, from what I read from most of the answers - no.
Just to add a comment..she started out as an opera singer before she began singing rock 'n' roll.

Nope. She was married to her guitarist. In her video, "The Ooh Ooh Song" she is wearing darling overalls. Those were maternity clothes. She was pregnant with one of their children at the time.