Hello, I'm 13 years old, and I really wish to be a singer, and get a record deal. I registered on myspace yesterday and I saw that an 11 year old girl got a record deal, and we have an around the same voice. I have a great voice, and I can sing to songs other's write, but I just get nervous if I sing in front of others. I sweat and shake, and I can't stop! I am looking for a manager that will work with a teenager, and one that can help me! Can anyone help me with my nervoisity please?! PS. I'll never give up, so please don't leave spammy comments or rude comments please! If you really want that record deal the way you say you do, then you'll eventually get over your stage fright. It's perfectly normal to be tense and nervous while performing for other people. Especially since people like to judge singers/actors/entertainers quite harshly. (ahem- Simon Cowell). There are a number of things you can do to help overcome your anxiety:
*PRACTICE!
- If you know your song well enough and have practiced enough, you will be more confident in yourself during the actual show
*GET USED TO IT
- Try performing at parties or at other venues, just to get the feel of an actual audience. Remember that if you do become a professional singer, you will literally be singing for thousands everyday (on the radio, TV, concerts, iPods, etc), and you really do have to get used to it.
*YOU'RE NOT PERFECT
- So don't try to be. People get nervous because they are fearful of negative reactions from other people. There'll always be a couple of geezers that you'll never be able to impress and you should accept that. No matter what you do, you'll always make mistakes so the best thing to do is to forget it. Fans are very forgiving and if you throw them an excellent performance they'll probably forget everything else.
*AIM FOR THE GOLD
- Remember what you're doing this for. If you want that label, you're going to need a thick skin. Several big producer players may turn you down badly before you get that "big break". Remind yourself that you believe it's worth it.
*SURROUND YOURSELF WITH GOOD PEOPLE
- Keep family and friends around, people who will always have a kind word, no matter how bad you thought your performance was. They can comfort you and give tips, advice and support. Remember, that you can't do this alone! And no matter how many other people aroudn the world hate on you, they'll always be there for you.
*GIVE YOURSELF A "FEEL-GOOD" MANTRA
- It can be a quote or special saying that relaxes you and makes you feel good inside that you can use before a show to help you tap into that inner diva! It doesn't have to be a word, it could be a hobby, like listening to music, reading, etc.
In the end you really will need to overcome this problem before you achieve your dream. No matter how good your voice is, you'll never really stand out unless the people see that you have personality. PERSONALITY IS KEY! A Mariah Carey-style singer who just stands and sings is no match for an out-of-tune crow that's dancing and cracking up the audience. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there.
Good luck! i have the same exact problem! i'm 13 too nd i do have a good voice and i do get nervous
well, i dont think i can be your manager but u can try these tips (i'll try this too):
1. close ur eyes and picture that nobody is there except for urself and whoever u feel comfortable around
2. just imagine that u are used to all these people staring like a real singer
3. if u HAVE to keep ur eyes open, focus on someone in the audience who could get rid of ur nervousness
4. just breathe! go go go for for for it iti it itit itit lolol Nervousness: I used to get nervous and make mistakes when others were listening to me, until I noticed the difference in me when I was making music alone. When I am alone, I have an undivided mind. I'm not thinking of anything but the music. When other people were present, I noticed I had a divided mind. I would be wondering if they liked what I was doing, if the music was boring, or what they might think if I made a mistake. When I was a child and absorbed in my playing, I didn't notice or care if anyone was watching. When you sing, let it be play. Put 100% of yourself into it and don't divide your mind.
Sweating and shaking: These are both signs of distress being released. When it happens, just realize that you are letting go of your fear and nervousness in that moment, and be thankful that you are releasing it. It is a process. It may take time. It's okay. Accept it and don't judge it or worry that others will judge it. Most people never even know you're nervous even though you think it's obvious. try to think of it as excitement instead of nervousness.
Visualization: Instead of waiting until you are actually in front of people and being caught by fear, spend time beforehand visualizing yourself giving a wonderful relaxed performance and being congratulated by an enthusiastic audience. Imagine that you have already successfully completed the task before you even begin it. |
